Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
According to some experts, journaling is a great way to relieve stress. Military spouses are always taking care of others – the children, the husband or wife, the family, the chores – the list can be extensive. And we, like our soldiers, Marines, and seamen,and airmen are serving our country by managing the home front. When do the spouses have time to slow down and reflect on what happens in our lives?
This question has evaded many of us, as we deal with our deployed and injured soldiers. We continue to give and to provide for others in our lives, but we do not provide for ourselves. “When a spouse is deployed, we often see all the responsibilities - bills, meal planning, yard work, laundry, house cleaning, child care needs - and we fall into inaction because it seems overwhelming. We take care of only basic needs such as feeding the children (and we eat what’s left on their plates), we do only enough laundry to get a clean top (forget folding and putting things away) and maybe do enough minor cleaning to keep bugs away - and then we still end up pooped at the end of the day. That inaction drains us more, leaving us feeling exhausted.”
Therefore, the military spouse becomes depleted, despondent, and stressed. Many of us stay cooped up and isolated in our homes when our spouses deploy because we feel that no one will understand our plight, and we become depressed and lonely. One of the best ways to relieve this stress is to put the negative, stressful things down on paper. Or, create a gratitude journal writing about things to be grateful for. As stated in the Army Times: “When you spend so much time meeting the needs of others, you lose touch with your important relationships - with yourself. Start by writing a list of things you are grateful for. That list can change how you see and approach life. Journaling creates a dialogue with yourself. You can work through many issues by keeping a journal. It’s much healthier than keeping things bottled up inside, running through your head over and over again.
So give it a try. What do you have to lose besides the stress?
Saturday, March 21, 2009
So it is that time again. My hubby is gone on yet another mission. That's another 6 weeks of calls few and far between. I always try to keep myself very busy. At night though it seems that even that is not enough when it is time to go to bed. You know I have been a military wife now for 15 years and around the military for 20. You would think one would get used to it. I never have. In fact I believe it gets harder as we grow more and more together over the years. We are getting close to when he can retire but I don't think he will. We already have our new assignment. We will be moving to Arizona in the fall. That won't be to bad. At least that way I won't have to fly thousands of miles to see family or friends. The cost to fly now days seems astronomical. It can be done but you really have to plan ahead. I guess I am venting a little. It does get so frustrating sometimes and yet I wouldn't trade it for anything. I love my life! :) Til next time, be abundantly blessed.